Do you have that idea from the earliest age, that the process of resolving conflict means investing a lot of energy just to solve a situation that is unpleasant?
And from that experience you see conflict as negative?
I think you have a great resistance to change but this does not help in transforming better personalities.
Would you agree that some people have not been educated to confront conflicts in a positive way?
So today, you will learn how to see conflict as a positive process of change and growth.
You should know that conflict is inseparable from humans. It is a source of personal enrichment and growth. You are living in a world full of diversities and that there are differences of opinion, fate, personalities and beliefs. But without these differences, you become stagnant and growth will never be possible.
Conflict can be unpredictable and cause people to react in a defensive manner.
But how can you view it as a positive process?
- It is a positive process if you are able to clarify important problems and issues and avoid focusing on the person.
- If you can come up with solutions to individual or common problems.
- If it brings you together in resolving issues important to the other person.
- If it promotes authentic communication and helps you in working through emotion, anxiety, and stress.
- If it builds cooperation through learning more about each other.
- Helps you develop understanding of other’s positions and interpersonal skills.
- Provides recognition of each other’s humanity.
Now you discover that this process of conflict is leading you to maturity, growth and positive change in your relationship. It helps you in buliding a solid foundation.
You will never know what you are capable of without challenge. You will never develop new skills if sheer necessity does not force you to do so. Without necessary conflict, there will be no change and improvement.
In the next letter I will discuss about conflict and vilolence, coming to your inbox soon! Neil Warner
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